“You know what’s really, powerfully sexy? A sense of humor… A taste for adventure… Smart-ass comebacks… A quick wit… Dirty jokes told by an innocent-looking lady.”–Courtney E. Martin
Any worthy dating prospect will tell you there’s nothing sexier than a woman who can hold her own in conversation and respond with quick wit in unexpected ways. It communicates a sense of confidence and daringness… a willingness to be unguarded. Most of all, it gives you presence and an air of intelligence. Mastering how to be witty and quick not only makes you magnetic in conversation but also shows emotional intelligence, charm, and a confidence that captivates everyone in the room.
Tips On How to Be Witty and Quick
In this post, I’m going to give Frugalista’s some tips to being witty and carefree and in so doing prime your sexy.
1. Be quick
Wittiness, by definition, has to do with being quick and clever. Timing is everything. When it comes to wit, the time you spend processing your thoughts may be a missed opportunity.
2. Say whatever comes to your mind
We often self-monitor and are careful about the things that come out of our mouths. At the same time, there are certain contexts where it isn’t appropriate to let just any old thing roll from your tongue, using your judgment, practice letting your guard down a little. Forget the self-monitoring and say whatever unpolished thing comes to your mind.
Wit is about delivering the unexpected.
3. Don’t be invested in the outcome
Let your goal be to just be yourself. You don’t even have to aim to be funny. Most people who are funny are just funny. In fact, they may even seem nonchalant about whatever it is they’re saying.
Wit doesn’t try hard.
4. Engage in Banter
Wit is best when it is like a tennis ball hit from one side of the court to the other. Granted, there are some people unskilled at being quick in thought and confident enough to return the quip, but if you can find “in’s” in the conversation to tease a little, this may open the door for the other to be engaged and comfortable enough to go back and forth with you a little.
People love to feel like you’re paying attention to them, and building on the things they say with humor will go a long way to making them feel things for you.
5. Know a little something
Let’s face it. Witty people are also most likely intelligent people. They use metaphors and other antics that help in their delivery, but in order to use metaphors, you have to be an observer of life and know how to make connections to seemingly unconnected concepts.
Polish your wit with a little knowledge of popular culture, words of a song, or a good book.
6. Keep your ears open for opportunities to weave in earlier jokes
Think about your favorite stand-up routine. The trick of the trade is being able to tell a story while using a common thread that unites all of what you’re saying.
The popularity of the phrase, “That’s what she said,” from television, The Office, was not only funny because it most often came at unawares, but also because it built on earlier jokes, making laughter roll that much easier.
7. End on a high note
There’s nothing less sexy than someone who’s trying to be funny but just doesn’t know when to end. You laugh the first time, the second, maybe even the third, but ALRIGHT, ENOUGH, it’s not funny anymore! Please, I beg, don’t be that girl! Allow enough space in time between uses of earlier jokes.
Be like a comedian. Hypothetically drop the mike and end the show while everyone’s still laughing.
Sexy has less to do with what you wear and more to do with your energy. Be confident, witty, and sexy. Did you win your mate with your quick wit? Tell us about it below.
8. Master the art of timing
Knowing how to be witty and quick isn’t just about what you have to say; it’s when you have to say it. A one-liner at the right time does greater harm than a well-thought-out joke. Let silences create suspense. Wit is often born in the silence between words.
9. Watch the pros
Study stand-up comedians, late-night hosts, and even smart rom-com characters. You’ll start to see rhythm, tone, and wordplay that will make conversations sizzle. The more you see, the easier it becomes to learn in your speech to be witty and quick.
10. Play with words
Wit loves wordplay. Puns, double meanings, and ironic twists make for sharp comebacks. Try mixing up hasty phrases; that’s where the cunning lurks.
11. Keep it light
Being witty does not mean being mean. The best kind of wit is that which plays for mischief and not cruelty. Think cute sarcasm, not shade. That’s how you stay magnetic.
12. Know your audience
A joke that is a big laugh at brunch may not play in the least bit at a board meeting. Learning witty and quick learning involves reading the room. Great conversationalists know when to keep quiet and when to strike.
13. Use your expressions
Sometimes the punch of a bad joke is in your eyebrow rise or in your smirk. Wit is more physical than verbal. Your face is a great co-star – let it do the work for you.
14. Embrace imperfection
Slip-ups, above all others, generate some of the funniest, wittiest moments. If you stumble upon a word, make a joke of it. Individuality is attractive, so don’t be afraid of your faults – that’s how to be clever and on the spot in life.
15. Learn to listen actively
Quick wit doesn’t happen in isolation. It happens by listening intently and picking up on what others overlook. You can’t reply wittily when you don’t hear the setup.
16. Watch your tone
Delivery can be the way in which wit works or not. Too dry, and it’s missed. Too eager, and it feels forced. Act out your lines with easy humor – as if you were born funny.
17. Use callbacks
Mention something funny that was said earlier in the conversation and come back to it later. It makes you sound snappy and on purpose – a true indicator that you know how to be quick and witty.
18. Be unpredictable
One of the weapons of wit is surprise. Play with expectations – if they expect severe, give silly. When they are expecting something sweet, go smart. It keeps people intrigued.
19. Don’t overthink
Overanalyzing kills humor. If you smile at something you think, express it. Half the attractiveness of wit is spontaneity – the fearlessness to speak before greatness.
20. Read – a lot
Books give you more words and references to use, which is the fuel of wittiness. Whether it’s Jane Austen or Mindy Kaling, the more you read, the more witty and quick you’ll become.
21. Observe life
Comedy is funny stuff, everyday moments, people’s way of speaking, chaos, errands, the irony of adult life, and so on. Witty people see where others see nothing and make something brilliant.
22. Flirt with intelligence
Being smart is sexy. Being smart and funny is irresistible. Speak with curiosity, metaphors, and humor. That is how you get intelligence to flirt.
23. Be prepared to respond with comebacks, but spontaneously
Even though there are a few funny lines that can be set up before the scene, be loose. The true master is the one who can be witty and quick enough to change the rules as he or she goes.
24. Don’t dominate
Wit is a dance, not a monologue. But also let the other person shine, your rapid wit will be even more noticeable when it comes in the context of good chemistry.
25. Find humor in yourself
Self-deprecating humor makes you both relatable and convincing. When you are able to laugh at your own peculiarities, everyone else is comfortable with laughing at you, instead of with you.
26. Practice your pace
If you talk too fast, your jokes go poof; too slow, and they fizzle. To write or speak is to be pacing – to speak with wit, as did he.
27. Use awkward moments to come up with punch lines
Silence? Stumble? Unexpectedly say something like: “Well, in my head, that went better.” Boom – instant charm. Those are the keys to being witty and quick, even under pressure.
28. Borrow brilliance
If you come up with a witty line from a show or book (at the right time), you will be considered smart and humorous. Just be sure to loosen it up to suit your style.
29. Use contrast
Sweet and sarcastic, serious and absurd: Binary oppositions. Contrast is unexpected, and expectation is the juice of wit.
30. Leave them wanting more
The most sexual form of humor is the lingering form. Let the line go, give that smile, walk out of the moment like a mic drop. And that’s the final step to mastering the art of being witty and quick – to get only the right amount of information, so that you’re unforgettable.
Conclusion – Witty Is the New Sexy
Learning how to be witty and quick isn’t about learning punchlines or trying really hard to be funny – it’s about confidence, timing, and being authentic. When you can express your innate humor, people are attracted because of your energy. Wit is intelligence with personality, with charm and courage, and playfulness, and with purpose.
So, next time you are in a conversation, don’t second-guess your spark. Say what comes to mind, take ownership of your words, and have fun with the flow of banter back and forth. The reason – because being witty isn’t just about making people laugh – it’s about making people remember you.
Be bold. Be clever. Be the woman who knows just how to be witty and quick and easily unforgettable.
