I worked with a woman that told me that she was looking forward to renewing her vows with her husband on their tenth wedding anniversary. They were planning to have a destination wedding in Jamaica. My initial thought was, “How wonderful!” My next thought as a newlywed was, “Wow, that’s a long time from now.”
On my way home, I started thinking about this concept some more —waiting years to renew your vows in an expensive ceremony— and had a lot more questions. Were they waiting to renew their vows because they thought it had to be done after a set period of time? After one of those milestone years (i.e. 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, 20 years)? Were they waiting to renew their vows because they thought that there had to have a hefty price tag attached to the experience?
But then I realized that my husband and I renew our vows darn near every six months. But we call it something different. When my husband and I began dating, we started the “6-month Relationship Review” tradition. We would make a weekend out of it. Usually, we would book a beautiful hotel room or find a cost-effective deal for a weekend getaway to give us a beautiful, relaxing environment to reflect on our relationship, focus on our love, and reconnect in a real way. (When the money was funny, we ordered in and shut out the world out. No phone calls. No social media.) Prior to our “6-month Relationship Review,” we had to reflect on the following and be prepared to share our thoughts:
So, to answer the question, “How long should you wait before renewing your vows?” I would have to say, “There is no set time.” You can create your own ways to connect with your spouse in informal, meaningful, and cost-effective ways that will add value to your marriage’s strength and happiness…whenever and however, you want.
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Frugal Feministas—What do you think? How often should you renew your vows?