by Monique Halley
Bottom line, relationships are huge investments. We pour ourselves into them. We need to feel like we’re getting something back. If you’re not, then something needs to change. And you’re the only one who can figure out what that change needs to be.
If you are in this situation, I suggest using the cost-benefit analysis. This is a straight-forward decision making tool. Yes, I know that this is an unconventional approach to making a relationship based decision. However, the analysis will give you a greater sense of clarity so you can make an informed decision.
First lets look at what constitute a cost verses a benefit:
This is an opportunity for you to write down all that has been on your mind, which made things more difficult to figure out. You will be surprised at the different thoughts that shows up. Seeing things on paper will help you clear the mental clutter.
Cost-Benefit Analysis Exercise:
Get a pen & paper or open up a word doc and complete this activity on your computer. You can list as many points as you want. Since it is from your point of view, don’t worry about your partner being offended. He shouldn’t be looking at your list anyway; at least not now.
These are 2 part questions. Here are the steps:
Other questions to consider:
Now compare the results. Whether you should stay or not, has to be a clear decision. Only when you have clarity, will you willingly accept whatever decision you arrive at.
If you have any questions about this exercise, please leave a comment below and I will be happy to answer them.
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With Love & Gratitude,
Monique is the founder of Simply Bliss, a personal development company for women, with a focus on relationship clarity. Sessions are offered vi & in-person for women who want to release unhealthy relationships, heal from broken ones and learn to love again. Get immediate access to a free relationship worksheet. Sign-up here: http://bit.ly/freeworksheetdownload
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