I don’t want to hear it! We can spend hours in conversation with our friends, moms, sisters, boyfriends, husbands, whoever has a listening ear giving them the pre-text, text, and post-text of “how crazy today was”. We can discuss why Sally couldn’t “do it herself” or why is it that “I’m being called every time…” and my favorite cry “I’m not getting paid for this.” But when is enough enough? At what point do you (re)claim your entitlement to peace?
You are absolutely right, “that is not fair” and yes I know, “he didn’t have to say that.” But we can’t control how others behave. We can’t waste any more time analyzing what a co-worker was thinking when they made that comment. It’s unproductive, leads to a road of oscillating misinterpretation, thus, clogging your mind. A clogged mind is unclear and unfocused.
EVERYONE is entitled to peace, a state of clarity where your integrity matches your actions.
Define what eliminates your peace. Think about what actions and reactions stir up your emotions and distract you from being the best you. Write them down. Spend your conversation time analyzing these statements and find, if any, a commonality. This can help you learn more about yourself and what you can or can’t handle at the workplace. Thus, finding peace.
Plan your reactions. People reveal themselves through their actions. And most of the time, their actions are redundant. Luckily for you, we can plan our reaction to these actions to eliminate bitter feelings and walk out of any situation with a peace of mind. Control yourself. You are not a puppet, guided by someone else’s action. You have a mind of your own and you have the freedom to understand that, most people’s actions are “NOT ABOUT YOU”. Unfortunately, we are victim to people’s unhappiness, but on the other hand, don’t accept that. See it for what it is, unhappiness, and leave it with that person. Thus, walking away with peace.
Begin to think about your future. Most of our frustration at work comes from not being happy with what you do. Somehow people have embedded this false notion that their current situation is their future situation. If you’re not happy, you need to change it. Take the time to invest in yourself and make the proper adjustments so that you are working towards an occupation that makes you happy and implements a plan to get there. Thus, owning peace.
Take a Lunch Break. ALONE! Yes, with all the thoughts that run through one’s mind that’s enough to keep yourself company. Lunch buddies can clog our minds with work drama that we were better off just not knowing. You need time to be with yourself; sorting your thoughts, enjoying your peace, and/or revitalizing your peace for the afternoon. There is power in being at peace with yourself.
Natasha Gordon has a passion to educate women of all walks. As co-founder of Project Reset & Peace of Mind, she aims to create a society where women live out their entitlement to peace, see their maximum potential, and reclaim building positive relationships throughout their lives. Find her on Instagram @njoylyfe and Facebook @NatashaJoyGordon.