Saturdays are our days for connection.—we chill, cuddle, and get some of the heavy cleaning out the way early in the day. But last Saturday, while I was lying on the couch, my husband came beside me and said, “Mami, we gotta talk about money.”A couple of weeks back we had spent a weekend in DC where we encountered some financial friction, which I thought we had overcome.“Is this about you asking to use my credit card to buy gas?” I asked.“Yes and no. I think we have been living like roommates ...
Love & Money
Money, Marriage, and My Man: 3 Lessons a Trip to DC Taught Me About My Money Issues
My husband and I took a weekend jaunt to DC this Presidents' weekend to get away and to connect with some friends. We pulled into a rest stop and he asked for my credit card to fill the tank."How much would that cost?" I asked.He said, "around $65.00 or $70.00."He noticed my discomfort and said, "Look, babes, we are married and I am all in, you gotta stop looking at our money as separate."I saw his lips moving, but all I could think about was my mother and how my father took advantage of her, ...
Why Cutting The Cable Will Save My Marriage (and Us Money)
Before I got married, I used to hear women talk about how hard it was to keep the passion going and the juices flowing in a marriage. I never understood what they meant, though. Not that I believed that the love in their marriages wasn’t real, I just (naively) thought the passion that my husband and I experienced during our days of courting and dating would somehow always be there once we jumped the broom.I have been married for three months, and I am here to testify, “I was wrong; they were ...
The Budget and The Bride: 8 Ways To Start A Financially Fluid Marriage
It took two years before I finally walked down the aisle. I loved my fiancé, but I just wasn’t ready."Ready" had nothing to do with “cold feet.” "Ready", for me, had everything to do with being financial positioned to absorb the cost of a wedding. I had spent the larger part of my twenties sweating, clawing, and pulling myself out of debt and refused to go back.If wedding expenses and your dreams of financial freedom seem to be at war, don't be discouraged. Here are some tips to keep you sane ...
The Budget and The Bride: 8 Ways to Start Your Marriage Financially Fluid
I just got married!!!!But it was touch-and-go for a minute. I had been engaged for a year and living with my then-fiance for seven months before making it to the altar. My mama was scared. My brother was skeptical. There were rumors and concerns up and through Antigua and Tobago about if/when I was going to make myself a respectable woman.To be honest, I have always liked being naughty and was not going to be pushed into doing something until I was damn well ready.And "ready" for me had nothing ...