Last month, I had the pleasure of serving as a professor for not one, but two of Mogul X’s break out sessions on #adulting and having a healthy relationship with money. To be honest, before they reached out to invite me to speak, I had never heard of Mogul, one of the fastest growing start-ups focused on empowering women. But once I did, I was in and completely pumped to speak at the conference. I even had the change to meet Tiffany, the 27-year old founder of this multimillion dollar company. ...
Money Mindset
Did Spending Half a Grand on Clothes Help Me Overcome My Fear of Spending Money?
Ever since releasing Heal Your Relationship with Money, I’ve experienced a number of newer and more nuanced connections with money that I wanted to share with you in the hope you’ll be able to make more sense of your ever-changing relationship with your coins. Understanding Fear and How to Overcome It We all have fears. Fear of public speaking. Fear of intimacy. Fear of rejection. Fear of bugs. You name it, there’s a fear around it. When it comes to overcoming most fears, the most common ...
5 Baby Steps to Eliminate Debt and Increase Your Financial Confidence
There is a reason why “debt” is a “four-letter” word. Debt is a curse and keeps you from living your life free of fear, worry, and frustration.The irony is that we run away from our financial problems because we want to avoid pain. Running away, however, only worsens the state of our finances, thus creating even more pain and financial issues. But the bottom line is that we must confront our debt in order to control it and ultimately eliminate it. We must tackle our debt in order to feel truly ...
3 Ways 10,000 Brown Girls Can Heal Their Relationship with Money
In January, I gave myself the challenge of helping at least 10,000 brown girls heal their relationship with money by the end of the year.Gulp.Honestly, when this thought came to me I wanted to push it away because it seemed too big and too scary. But when my higher self (luckily) stepped in and told me that I could do it; She told me that I had to use what I had and what I loved to make it happen…asap.So I made a mental list of what I had:I had The Frugal FeministaI had a love of writingI had ...
What If All Financial Advisors Were Women?
Now that I look back on my investment journey, I realize that it was not an easy road. In fact, it was bumpy and wrought with financial ignorance and financial failure. Here are my most distinct money memories:There was that time that I nearly lost all of my money to a shady “financial advisor” when I was still in college and interning at an insurance company. I never asked about his background or his expertise. I was this close to giving him all of my money because he was in a fresh-to-death ...
Is Your Money Story Holding You Hostage, Like Mine Did?
I’ve always been a mama’s girl. I always felt I had to protect her, even though I was the little one and she was the big one. Her hurt was my hurt. Her pain was my pain.So when my father up and abandoned his wife and 2.3 kids, I knew the only way to show true solidarity was to sacrifice my happiness and adopt her beliefs about the world. In this case, I learned that men were bad, money was short, and men were never to be trusted with your heart or handbag. And as a dutiful daughter, I clung to ...
The Cost of Pretty
I was sitting on my couch with little motivation to go the gym (sound familiar?) and came across Khloe Kardashian’s reality show Revenge Body. Even though I don’t agree with the reductive use of the body as a way to create envy and jealousy for another human, I couldn’t help but be inspired by the commitment of the participants. With the support of world-class trainers and nutritionists, contestants were able to transform their thinking, eating, and approach to exercise to create their ...
5 Real Money Lessons from The Real Housewives of Atlanta
Most of us primarily tune into The Real Housewives of Atlanta (RHOA) to witness drama, foolishness, and a lot of bad behavior. I know I do. But now that I’ve watched The Real Housewives of Atlanta for the last five years, I’ve found myself taking notes about how these women operate when it comes their money. Even though they are quite foolish in their personal lives, they are quite savvy when it comes to their money. Here are five of the smartest money lessons I’ve learned. Protect your ...
Are You Using Self-Care as an Excuse to Splurge?
Earlier last month, I was on my couch feeling a little overwhelmed with life. Before I knew it, I was on Groupon with credit card in hand rationalizing the purchase of a chocolate mask facial, a teeth whitening session, and a 60-minute body scrub with exotic oils. Within a matter of minutes and a few clicks, I dropped nearly $200 on what I wanted to call self-care, which has equated spending on beauty, grooming, and other appearance-based services as evidence of true self-care. What Might ...
Is Your Money Story Holding You Hostage, Like Mine Did?
I’ve always been a mama’s girl. I always felt I had to protect her, even though I was the little one and she was the big one. Her hurt was my hurt. Her pain was my pain.So when my father up and abandoned his wife and 2.3 kids, I knew the only way to show true solidarity was to sacrifice my happiness and adopt her beliefs about the world. In this case, I learned that men were bad, money was short, and men were never to be trusted with your heart or handbag.And as a dutiful daughter, I clung to ...