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Why I Learned to Say No and Not Feel Bad About It

How many times have you ever dragged yourself out of the house or stopped by somewhere on the way home and you really didn’t feel like it?  You probably did it because you told someone that you would be there at a certain time, and you don’t want to break your promise.  Trust me.  I’ve

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How to Attract All The Joy That You Can Stand

I have been a fan of Debrena’s since the early 2000’s. Her books All The Joy You Can Stand and Sacred Pampering Principles are MY EVERYTHING. (I highly recommend buying them.) These are the books that I recommend to my coaching clients and any sistergirl in need of encouragement, direction, and food for the soul.

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7 Alternatives to Graduate School That Won’t Make You Broke or Stress You Out

For years, I dreamed of going to graduate school. During my lunch break and—let’s be honest—during the time that I should have been working, I spent a lot of time researching doctoral programs in Women’s Studies, Sociology, African-American Studies, and Creative Writing. After secretly printing out the schools’ course catalogs and stuffing them quickly into

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The Only Place That You Will Ever Be Successful

Growth happens when you get uncomfortable. As we begin this New Year we should be focused on hitting new goals and having new experiences so this year isn’t a replay of previous years. One of the key ways to do that is to look for ways that you can get uncomfortable everyday. This doesn’t mean

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5 Feelings That Every Black Woman Should Experience

I know it’s New Year’s resolution time. This usually means that we talk about things that we want to do and want to accomplish. We break out the scissors and the glue and create beautiful vision boards with all of the people, places, and things that we want to meet, go, or purchase. And don’t

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Here is the Formula for Achieving Success and Happiness in Your 20s, 30s, and 40s

There are so many things that were thought to be impossible until someone did them. Humans would never visit the stars, then Yuri Gagarin went to space in 1961 and Neil Armstrong walked on the moon in 1969. Just this past September, Diana Nyad was the first person to swim from Cuba to Florida without

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Meet DreamGirl Ines Johnson: Author of Pleasure Hound Part 1 and Other Books for “Strong Women Who Suck At Love”

Ines is my homie and I am super proud to introduce her to you! We met close to four years ago at Howard University at a Zora Neale Hurston/Richard Wright Writers Retreat. Four years later, her debut novel Pleasure Hound Part 1 launched yesterday and it is ALREADY in Amazon’s Top 100 for categories like

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7 Adjectives That Accurately Describe Black Women Besides “Strong” and “Independent”  

For years, one of my favorite lazy Saturday rituals was to go to my local thrift store and shop. On one particular Saturday I went in the afternoon and the radio was playing. “Fellas, call in and tell me two things that you love about black women after the commercial break,” the dj said. When

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Are Black Women the Solution to Building Wealth in Their Community?

A few months back, I had the opportunity to view a film called “Black Heirlooms” which chronicles the financial and emotional impact that a lack of proper estate planning has had one African-American family’s legacy of love and community. Watching the short documentary was so moving that it inspired me to speak to my 74-year

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30 Weird and Awesome things That You May or May Not Know About Me

Last week, I turned the big 3-5 and it was one of the best and most chill birthdays of my life. I took two days off. The day of my birthday and the day after my birthday. I stayed home rubbed my belly and counted all my many simple and magic blessings. Since you have

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